In reply to a thread When to decide to end marriage? (http://www.speakingtree.in/public/spiritual-forums/wellness /when-to-decide-to-end-marriage)...by The seeker of the truth (http://www.speakingtree.in/public/sarita.chaubey)
Dear
Its not only about marriage, in every relationship, there are two things to consider. First the strength of the relationship and second the problems you encounter while being into that relationship.
First-The strength...We all as a human being, have needs. These needs can be categorised into Physical needs, mental needs, emotional needs, social needs, needs of subconscious mind and needs of unconscious mind. More a person fulfill our needs, stronger the bond we share with that person. That bond itself describes the love we have for that person. We don't even know that our so many needs are being fulfilled by that person. Once that relationship of needs fulfillment establishes, we consider ourselves in a relationship with that person with whatever name. Slowly courtesy, concern and care comes along with that bond. So more the needs are fulfilled, stronger we are attached with that person. (There is a lot more to say and discuss about it but lets keep it short and in context to your thread).
Its not only about marriage, in every relationship, there are two things to consider. First the strength of the relationship and second the problems you encounter while being into that relationship.
First-The strength...We all as a human being, have needs. These needs can be categorised into Physical needs, mental needs, emotional needs, social needs, needs of subconscious mind and needs of unconscious mind. More a person fulfill our needs, stronger the bond we share with that person. That bond itself describes the love we have for that person. We don't even know that our so many needs are being fulfilled by that person. Once that relationship of needs fulfillment establishes, we consider ourselves in a relationship with that person with whatever name. Slowly courtesy, concern and care comes along with that bond. So more the needs are fulfilled, stronger we are attached with that person. (There is a lot more to say and discuss about it but lets keep it short and in context to your thread).
Second-Problems.
..When we start facing problems in our relationships, it depends what we consider
the bigger one, Problems or the Bond we share. When the problems plays a bigger
role than the Bond of love (needs fulfillment, courtesy concern and care) ,
relationship start deteriorating day by day. And comes to an end one day when
we are left with without any fulfillment f needs, At that time we still want to
be that person because of Courtesy, concern and care but that too elopes if
other one don't feel the same.
So
a relationship ends when there are Problems much bigger than the bond once we
shared, end of further fulfillment f needs, end of a feel of courtesy, concern
and care. in response to your thread, when to decide to end a marriage, one
more thing need to be addressed and that is Responsibility. A number of things
need to be thought of under that matter. Who else is getting affected...
Keep the bond stronger and bigger than the problems, one will never think of ending a relationship...
Stay Happy....Stay Blessed.
Keep the bond stronger and bigger than the problems, one will never think of ending a relationship...
Stay Happy....Stay Blessed.
